Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Hold Onto Hope

Throughout the adoption journey, we are constantly reminded that life happens 
According to His timing.
I have also learned that sometimes being patient, and trusting in His timing can be a challenge. 
However, I know this is the best way.  I have faith. Our Heavenly Father can see the whole picture, and has a plan for each of our lives.  I truly know things often happen for a reason, and people come into our lives for specific reasons.  
One of my favorite quotes goes like this:
"God does notice us and He watches over us. But it is usually through another person that He meets our needs."-- Spencer W. Kimball.
Right now for us, that of course has to do with adoption.  Our baby will come through another.  Someone who is selfless, brave, and strong.  Someone who will choose adoption because she loves her child and is putting her child's needs above her own. 
In turn, we hope to be what that certain, special birth-mother and child are needing, and looking for.

A few weeks ago, we got an unexpected call from our caseworker that a sweet expectant mother was considering us as potential parents for her child and was due within the week.  He told us we would know her decision for certain in the few days following. 
We held our breath, paced the floors, and anxiously awaited.  
It was a long few days.
Although we tried not to allow ourselves to get our hopes up, it was somewhat inevitable.
A few days later, we found out that she had decided to parent the baby.  Bless her heart. We are sincerely happy for her.
We are grateful to her for considering adoption, and grateful that she considered us, and
although right now our hearts feel broken, that in itself gives us a glimmer of hope.

The following comes from an entry at www.therhouse.com:
“Sometimes good things fall apart so that better things can fall together.” 
-Marilyn Monroe 
(Who knew Marilyn Monroe had such poignant things to be said?!)
I would modify "better things" to "the right things."
We are waiting for the right birth-mom and the right baby to come into our world.

"The hardest part of infertility is the lack of control. The hardest part of adoption is the lack of control. We don’t mourn the loss of a child we never had, we mourn the loss of the ability to decide when and how to have a family."

I'm not so good at the waiting part.  I guess I'm the type of person that is pro-active, and I don't like to sit back and wait for things that are important to me to . .  . just happen. I've always believed that if you want to achieve something, you have to put yourself into action and make it happen.
But in our situation, it doesn't quite work that way.
So, we are doing all we can to get our story "out there" to hopefully help that special birth-mom find us.
We are praying our little hearts out, and hope that our prayers will lead her to us. 
We are praying we can be what she, in turn, needs and hopes for, 
for herself and her baby.
We have hope that there is a special baby out there for our family.
In the meantime, we are enjoying every ounce of our Brody-- we are so incredibly lucky to be his parents.
We are eternally grateful to his birth parents.

I recently heard this song in reference to adoption.
It is beautiful, and I love that it can work from a birth-mom's perspective, or an adoptive couples' perspective
Enjoy . . .

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